I work primarily with parents of children who have experienced significant early childhood trauma, broken attachments, and/or mental illness. I especially love helping parents whose children struggle with intense emotional and behavior challenges associated with Developmental Trauma (RAD, PTSD, OCD, ODD, mood disorders, FASD, ADHD, learning disabilities, etc.) These parents are some of the strongest, fiercest, and most amazing people on the planet. They are doing some of the hardest work there is, too. I am honored to be among them…and to be one of them myself.
Two of my children came to me through adoption and struggle with all of these things listed above (and more.) Sometimes they’re my greatest challenge and always my greatest gifts. Though we’re far from perfect and we still have our less than stellar days, I’ve found my way out of the darkness and ugliness that can so easily consume families like mine…and did threaten to destroy mine for a long time. I’d love to help you do the same!
Here’s the really neat thing, though. As I found my own way out of the chaos, my family followed me. My children began to blossom and heal and my marriage went from nearly shattered to better than ever. I know the way out. I know there is light. I know there is hope.
This is why I do what I do. I’m not OK with parents being thrown into the deep end of the ocean and expected to figure things out on their own while swimming against the sharks. I’m not OK with families imploding because they don’t have the right tool, skills, or help they need to do their jobs. I may not have all the answers, but what I do know for sure is even though this road isn’t an easy one to travel, it doesn’t have to destroy you. Healing and hope are possible and there really is a way out of the chaos.
My work is dedicated to helping parents of extremely challenging children gain the tools, skills, resources, and support needed to successfully parent their children and keep their families from collapsing in the process. I’ve been down this road. I know how intense, scary, and utterly exhausting this life can be. I also know it’s nearly impossible to do this job alone.
My mission is to help parents (even the exhausted ones) change the negative dynamics of their home, restore order, and promote true healing for all members of the family (especially themselves.) We will start wherever you are with whatever you’ve got to bring to the table and build on it from there. Our goal will be to look forward instead of back and turn the weakness, weariness, and horror into strength and healing that last a lifetime. Those who are willing to do the work will find courage, direction, and power to transform their own lives and the lives of those around them.
What I believe…
♥ Parenting is about parents, not children.
♥ You may not be the one who made the mess, but you are the right person to help clean it up.
♥ You are stronger, smarter, and more capable than you think you are.
♥ The best parenting method is the one that meets the needs of your child.
♥ Healing can and does happen.
♥ Healing happens through relationships.
♥ As long as everyone is still breathing, there is hope.