Trust Your Own Judgement

Are you tired of living your life based on other people’s expectations, judgments, or one-size-fits-all solutions? There are so many voices out there that insist they’re right based on what they see, but in reality, have no clue about you, what you’ve been through, or what life is really like for you. They can be utterly exhausting, right?

Imagine for a moment, what would it feel like to fully embrace your own inner voice, trust your judgment, and tune out the noise of others who insist on dictating your path. What would it be like to stand firm in your convictions and decisions without fear of rejection or hostility from others?

Stay the Course!

In the journey of healing from trauma, it’s easy to find ourselves caught between the echoes of our past and the expectations of those around us. Your inner voice and intuition are your friends. They may have been silenced in the past, but they don’t have to be any longer. Pay attention. Listen to what they’re saying.

You’re smart, you’re wise, and you’re also the best expert on your own life, whether you know it or not. Don’t be afraid to trust your own judgment, even when faced with judgmental voices or those who might disagree. Others may mean well, but they don’t fully understand your unique experiences and needs.

Trust Your Gut!

Especially at this time of year, there’s a lot of pressure to “conform to the norm” and do what everyone else is doing. That’s great if you want to do that, but Halloween isn’t for everyone. It can be exceptionally difficult for a lot of trauma survivors. It’s important to remember that just because it’s fun for some doesn’t mean it’s fun for everyone.  

If this spooky season is fun for you, go all in and enjoy it. If it’s fun for your kids (and they can handle it), great! Go for it! But if not, it’s completely fine to say no and decline invitations to participate. Just make sure you’re not doing it just because it’s what everyone else is doing.

As a mom of kids who came to me with a severe trauma history, we learned very early on that Halloween was NOT fun for our kids. It has consistently been the most difficult time of year for them. Why? Because absolutely everything about it glorifies death, evil, blood, gore, torture, and fear. It heightens and triggers the very real trauma they once lived. The fallout from that kind of exposure would last for weeks, sometimes months. Conforming to the norm was absolutely not worth the price we paid to try!


Listening to your inner voice is an act of self-empowerment. It’s acknowledging that you have the wisdom and strength within you to make choices that are best for you, your family, and your healing journey.

As you continue to listen to your inner voice and trust your judgment, you’ll discover that you are capable of making decisions that protect you, create peace, and empower your own trauma recovery process. They also help you redefine your life and live it on your terms. Trust in yourself, for you are the author of your story, and your inner voice is your most authentic guide on this transformative journey.

Now it’s your turn. Is trusting yourself and your own inner wisdom easy or hard for you? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments!

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